Why ask why?

I've been asked that question a lot lately. I don't know if this question is expected to be answered by me or not because the question is rarely a "why" I can answer. However, it got me wondering about why it is so important to ask this question at all about things we may never have the answer to or have control over.

Why ask why? Really, is it that important to know 'why' to move on? Is there really an answer that satisfies us in the end anyways if we are stewing over the 'why' when we are beyond comprehension of what is/has happened? My personal feelings are that circumstances happen, and people sometimes don't have reasons for their behavior, and the only thing we can control in life is our own behavior and subsequently how we choose to respond to those circumstances. As the saying goes "shit happens", so my question isn't "why is this happening?", but "what are you/I going to do about it despite this?" When we get stuck in the 'why' we aren't allowing ourselves to move forward because we are trying to make sense of something that may never make sense to us but is nevertheless still happening. When things feel out of control, find areas that you have control over: yourself and your choices, and doing nothing is a choice too.

Choosing to let go of the 'why', puts you in a place of empowerment and action instead of being stuck in a place of powerlessness. I invite you to find a way to let go of asking why and decide what you are going to do despite it, if anything at all...

Mirrors

Life is a mirror in every possible way. Our belief systems are mirrored by the results in our lives and our personality traits and truths are mirrored by people in our lives. When we notice someone is funny, generous, or insightful it is because we already hold these traits within ourselves. Conversely, when we notice malice, jealousy, cruelty and the dark pieces of others it is because we too own those qualities. We can't recognize what we don't already have which means what we see in others are the things we already have.

Look externally, seek the beauty in others and consciously be aware that you too hold that same beauty and brilliance simply because you can see it. We spend much of our time seeing whats wrong around us and ourselves that it colours our perception of the world. When we direct our attention to the positives in people, and can see it within ourselves, it creates a very different more friendly reality. Anything we direct our attention on we get more of, so practice being conscious of the greatness in others to cultivate greatness within ourselves.